Comments on: An open letter to my lost son http://www.alharper.com/2006/04/05/an-open-letter-to-my-lost-son/ Proving that beauty and brains can coexist peacefully. Tue, 06 Jan 2009 12:19:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: A.L. Harper http://www.alharper.com/2006/04/05/an-open-letter-to-my-lost-son/#comment-25 A.L. Harper Sun, 28 May 2006 12:50:00 +0000 http://www.alharper.com/2006/04/05/an-open-letter-to-my-lost-son/#comment-25 Suzie I'm impressed that you have managed to keep it together starting at 17. You and your partner must be strong people. I take my hat off to you. Suzie

I’m impressed that you have managed to keep it together starting at 17. You and your partner must be strong people.

I take my hat off to you.

]]> By: RC http://www.alharper.com/2006/04/05/an-open-letter-to-my-lost-son/#comment-24 RC Thu, 25 May 2006 16:29:00 +0000 http://www.alharper.com/2006/04/05/an-open-letter-to-my-lost-son/#comment-24 wow...that's very touching. Thank you for sharing this. --RC of strangeculture.blogspot.com wow…that’s very touching. Thank you for sharing this.

–RC of strangeculture.blogspot.com

]]> By: Suzie http://www.alharper.com/2006/04/05/an-open-letter-to-my-lost-son/#comment-23 Suzie Mon, 22 May 2006 16:08:00 +0000 http://www.alharper.com/2006/04/05/an-open-letter-to-my-lost-son/#comment-23 To anonymous first... you need to learn how to read... she aked her SON how he would feel being a FATHER at 17.. Her SON can't be a MOTHER idiot.. Read it again... Anonymous And to Ms Harper, I was a 17 year old mum I now have a 8 year old daughter.... and yes it was hard, my patrner and I have been together 10 years now and we are lucky that we had the support we did when we had our daughter, or I would now be in the same position as you... I believe someone who is great enough to not be selfish and give someone life, even when you know that life will be lived somewhere else has to be given the utmost RESPECT.. and I give this to you because, otherwise... where would your kid be now.. Don't let others get you down.. You did the right thing and gave your child the best life you could offer..... a loving family... To anonymous first…
you need to learn how to read…
she aked her SON how he would feel being a FATHER at 17.. Her SON can’t be a MOTHER idiot.. Read it again… Anonymous

And to Ms Harper,
I was a 17 year old mum I now have a 8 year old daughter…. and yes it was hard, my patrner and I have been together 10 years now and we are lucky that we had the support we did when we had our daughter, or I would now be in the same position as you…

I believe someone who is great enough to not be selfish and give someone life, even when you know that life will be lived somewhere else has to be given the utmost RESPECT.. and I give this to you because, otherwise… where would your kid be now..

Don’t let others get you down..
You did the right thing and gave your child the best life you could offer….. a loving family…

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.alharper.com/2006/04/05/an-open-letter-to-my-lost-son/#comment-22 Anonymous Tue, 16 May 2006 22:13:00 +0000 http://www.alharper.com/2006/04/05/an-open-letter-to-my-lost-son/#comment-22 [quote]Can you imagine how it would feel, at seventeen, to be a father?[/quote] Seeing as you're a female, it should be "mother." [quote]Can you imagine how it would feel, at seventeen, to be a father?[/quote]
Seeing as you’re a female, it should be “mother.”

]]> By: DT_ViBE http://www.alharper.com/2006/04/05/an-open-letter-to-my-lost-son/#comment-21 DT_ViBE Mon, 15 May 2006 18:31:00 +0000 http://www.alharper.com/2006/04/05/an-open-letter-to-my-lost-son/#comment-21 Hey Ms Harper Im Just a 16 year old kid, and i dont think my opinion would matta much, but styll, i dunno what the others r sayin, but writtin up ur thoughts and sharin it with every1 is the best way to get off da pain, whenever i have problems, i write letters to my gurlfriend, and yes it dose help annonamous person, because u thien have ppls who care. Now wit dis issue, everytime im "doin sumtin" with my gurl, i dread to every get into that situation, and i bet if ur son/daugter is bout my age, they woudl understand why u would have to give em up,neways, this blog is an awsome way to find ur child, *if he is able to use the web lol*, cuz the first page that pops up on google when i type in ur name is this, so yea good start. and just a question, wouldnt u at least have a phoen number or sumtin from where every u gave her/him up for adoption so they can track where ur child went? neways good luck on finding ur baby, for time being pray to God, its probably the best thing for now Ttyl ViBE Hey Ms Harper

Im Just a 16 year old kid, and i dont think my opinion would matta much, but styll, i dunno what the others r sayin, but writtin up ur thoughts and sharin it with every1 is the best way to get off da pain, whenever i have problems, i write letters to my gurlfriend, and yes it dose help annonamous person, because u thien have ppls who care. Now wit dis issue, everytime im “doin sumtin” with my gurl, i dread to every get into that situation, and i bet if ur son/daugter is bout my age, they woudl understand why u would have to give em up,neways, this blog is an awsome way to find ur child, *if he is able to use the web lol*, cuz the first page that pops up on google when i type in ur name is this, so yea good start. and just a question, wouldnt u at least have a phoen number or sumtin from where every u gave her/him up for adoption so they can track where ur child went? neways good luck on finding ur baby, for time being pray to God, its probably the best thing for now

Ttyl
ViBE

]]> By: David http://www.alharper.com/2006/04/05/an-open-letter-to-my-lost-son/#comment-20 David Mon, 15 May 2006 14:13:00 +0000 http://www.alharper.com/2006/04/05/an-open-letter-to-my-lost-son/#comment-20 Wow, I don't believe some of the replies to this. I can just assume it's to do with age and immaturity, or lack of life experience. Or maybe it's just that teenage pregnancies have, unfortunately, become the norm in the UK. Maybe if these people realised what the world and society was like 20 years ago they would appreciate what you had to do. I get the impression that many young/teenage parents, esp. in the UK, use babies as a means of obtaining state hand-outs and do not realise and appreciate the full responsibilities of being a proper and caring parent. I hope one day your son does try and find you and the two of you can get to know each other, or at least spend some time together. Wow, I don’t believe some of the replies to this. I can just assume it’s to do with age and immaturity, or lack of life experience. Or maybe it’s just that teenage pregnancies have, unfortunately, become the norm in the UK.

Maybe if these people realised what the world and society was like 20 years ago they would appreciate what you had to do. I get the impression that many young/teenage parents, esp. in the UK, use babies as a means of obtaining state hand-outs and do not realise and appreciate the full responsibilities of being a proper and caring parent.

I hope one day your son does try and find you and the two of you can get to know each other, or at least spend some time together.

]]> By: A.L. Harper http://www.alharper.com/2006/04/05/an-open-letter-to-my-lost-son/#comment-19 A.L. Harper Mon, 15 May 2006 09:56:00 +0000 http://www.alharper.com/2006/04/05/an-open-letter-to-my-lost-son/#comment-19 David Thank you for understanding. <EM>"I hope your son and other children that have been put up for adoption read it and believe it.And maybe one day he will be able to comprehend and appreciate why you did what you had to do."</EM> This is really all I can hope for. I don't know who he is or where he is and I probably never will. But this Blog is published in my name so if he wants to find me he could. I hope. David

Thank you for understanding.

“I hope your son and other children that have been put up for adoption read it and believe it.And maybe one day he will be able to comprehend and appreciate why you did what you had to do.”

This is really all I can hope for.

I don’t know who he is or where he is and I probably never will. But this Blog is published in my name so if he wants to find me he could.

I hope.

]]> By: A.L. Harper http://www.alharper.com/2006/04/05/an-open-letter-to-my-lost-son/#comment-18 A.L. Harper Mon, 15 May 2006 09:52:00 +0000 http://www.alharper.com/2006/04/05/an-open-letter-to-my-lost-son/#comment-18 I appreciate that you read this. But I think you missed one vital detail. Dude I'm a girl. I appreciate that you read this. But I think you missed one vital detail.

Dude I’m a girl.

]]> By: David http://www.alharper.com/2006/04/05/an-open-letter-to-my-lost-son/#comment-17 David Mon, 15 May 2006 09:50:00 +0000 http://www.alharper.com/2006/04/05/an-open-letter-to-my-lost-son/#comment-17 Hi Ms Harper, i just read your open letter and really admire your courage for writing and posting it. I can only imagine the pain, anguish and fear you must have felt esp. being pregnant and on drugs at such a young age. I hope your son and other children that have been put up for adoption read it and believe it.And maybe one day he will be able to comprehend and appreciate why you did what you had to do. Hi Ms Harper, i just read your open letter and really admire your courage for writing and posting it. I can only imagine the pain, anguish and fear you must have felt esp. being pregnant and on drugs at such a young age.

I hope your son and other children that have been put up for adoption read it and believe it.And maybe one day he will be able to comprehend and appreciate why you did what you had to do.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.alharper.com/2006/04/05/an-open-letter-to-my-lost-son/#comment-16 Anonymous Mon, 15 May 2006 08:04:00 +0000 http://www.alharper.com/2006/04/05/an-open-letter-to-my-lost-son/#comment-16 Pardon me, but does this not seem rather selfish, not your poem but your last comment. Why wouldn't you mention any names, maybe your child would have gotten it. But if you don't want your child to find out who wrote this but you want someone to be inspired and it makes you feel good to let the world know, then that to me seems a bit selfish But of course that is just my opinion. Its not easy, that I understand, but everyone is capable of error and everyone makes mistakes, most people are forgiving if they have a good sense of moral values. But you'll never know unless you go seek the truth for yourself. Dino, Pardon me, but does this not seem rather selfish, not your poem but your last comment. Why wouldn’t you mention any names, maybe your child would have gotten it. But if you don’t want your child to find out who wrote this but you want someone to be inspired and it makes you feel good to let the world know, then that to me seems a bit selfish

But of course that is just my opinion.

Its not easy, that I understand, but everyone is capable of error and everyone makes mistakes, most people are forgiving if they have a good sense of moral values. But you’ll never know unless you go seek the truth for yourself.

Dino,

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